Taming the Tongue

In frustration of your care giving have you lost control of your tongue? Have you said things to your client, their family, or even friends? Do you feel like you are nagging? Have you called someone “something “ that attacks their dignity? How can we be more mindful with our tongue? What are your tongue issues?

Out of our mouths should always be things to build people up, encourage others and not to tear them down. We do and say many things from habit. The first step in changing those habits is mindfulness of our own actions and setting some “trigger” to catch ourselves so we might respond differently. What “trigger” might you set to bridle your tongue? Can you find a different way to express yourself that might be more like a blessing to your client, family or friends? I know caring for those who desire independence but need our love and car can bring conflict at times. Really try not to get drawn into the battle. We can even pray for ways or talk to someone and get better ideas so we can respond differently and communicate better. Even if you have to, step away for a few moments to gather your thoughts, and calm down. We always should try to bless that client or person which we are speaking to. Remember always try and build someone up and not tear them down. Treat others as you would like to be treated.

Some great readings for you: (Matthew 5:22-23) (Ephesian 4:29)(James 3:8-9)

It can be a transforming experience!

As caregivers we may be focused on the increasing needs of our clients, but God may be focused on blessings to give us in this journey of caregiving. We can be transformed by seeing God’s blessings and provisions in the midst of all the suffering and pain.

What are those blessing and provisions? The first blessing is growing and understanding that this responsibility might be more difficult than we ever thought it might be. God provides for a special need for Him. He asks, “Will you put your trust in me?” He always wants us to trust Him, now it will be challenging and we aren’t experts. We do not understand all these complicated pieces relating to physical, emotional and spiritual challenges. We need the wisdom that God gives when we ask Him (James 1:5)

The second blessing calls us to re-examine the meaning and values of life. The losses and suffering that our clients experiences are losses we see, feel and even share. We are given opportunity to re-examine the things that will remain. Faith, Hope and Love.

The third blessing is prayer. I mean the prayer for the one we are taking care of. While their minds and bodies may be wasting away, we pray for them and life them up with our daily prayers. Those prayers help by keeping our attitude in a right relationship with God and the one we are caring for. As one concerned caregiver once shared, we hear our client say they just want to die. We pray that death can be seen as being in the light of the presence of God and not just absent from the suffering of the Body.

The fourth blessing can be an enriched reading of the scriptures. Scriptures give us the words of truth and life. Truth in scriptures describes the sinfulness of humans and the holiness of God. The truth is God calling people to trust Him and look to Him. Life in scripture is also a guide for us to know how we should be living. Many of the feelings we experience as caregivers are actually described in the book of Psalms. They tell us what to do with those feelings. Trusting in God is a decision (Psalms 119:105)

The fifth blessing is a transformation of our selves. Jesus spoke about the kingdom of God. It is a place of living that is beyond our earthly kingdoms of strife, injustice, suffering, and even financial distress. It is a kingdom that we see through spiritual eyes.

Our bodies will die and decay, but our spirit will live on. By nature we look at life in a very limited, selfish way. Our minds have the capacity to change our thinking and scripture presents us to a way of seeing life through God’s eyes. We should change both our hearts and minds. Whether we have been a Christian all our life or new to the faith, placing our trust in Him and fixing our eyes on Him even in our caregiving journey can be a life changing time of enriching our faith. The one we care about might even benefit from it.

Thought for the day: Words kill, words give life, they’re either poison or fruit…. You choose!